The very basics. It is like I would be writing about the most basic thing about any relationship. This is the only thing which is the most basic requisite which would make or break any relationship, however strong or long lasting it has been. The minute it is lost, the relationship, the alliance just crumbles. The beauty of this fact is that one needs to be constantly working at it. Never really forget to talk about it. Initially it is very important for you guys are still figuring things out and finding more about yourselves with each other, therefore making it all the more important that you guys work out that mutual understanding. Not only for your respective field of profession or work or study, but also for your interests, likes and dislikes. He’d love his football or basketball game and will be out most evenings with his boys on the court or the field and won’t be apologetic about it. Understand that. Just the way he does when he gives you that random call and you are in the middle of a girl’s day out shopping or at the cafe. The more you’d crib about his being away at work or at the exercises, the more you’d drift away from him. These guys, they get trained in a manner that after one point of time, if they get the idea that their girl isn’t understanding enough, they’d really move away and quick.
Your guy is away from his house, away from his comfort zone, away from the luxuries of his own city and believe it or not, you are going to be his strength to endure everything uncomfortable. Not all postings are happy ones. It really isn’t everyone’s cup of tea to be sitting alone in a make-shift tent in the middle of the desert and sound cheerful on the phone. You have to understand again. Alright. Why should you always understand that, and why not him for a change. Well, you should because you’re a woman and you’re made that way. Women can actually endure more than men can imagine. At points like these in life, I really reiterate the words of a wise man who said that,
a woman in no way is equal to a man. she is far more superior.
Eventually, the result of all this is that you end up with a stronger bond with your guy. We know it isn’t easy being with a fauji. They are stubborn, they won’t budge, they wouldn’t be able to reason themselves and most of the times they are the ones issuing orders around – mine forgets that he’s talking to his girlfriend and not to his junior or his jawan back at his unit – but such is life. Bitter-sweet memories which will always make you smile when you look back at them. BUT HEY.. NEVER FORGET WHERE TO DRAW THE LINE. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE YOU FEEL DEJECTED, NEGLECTED AND WORST OF ALL, MAKE YOU FEEL TAKEN FOR GRANTED. Till then, breathe, let him breathe and nurture the big baby you got in your life.